I just turned 29 on June 27th, and that means the next big birthday is 30. I hear this birthday tends to give people breakdowns, and existential crises, and many other assorted not so good things – but as for me, I’m feeling really good about aging. We all have to do it, and the older I get, the smarter I get, so I’m okay with it. These are some things I wish I could have told myself when I was 21.
Megan, Sean, Liz and I at Beer Boys… pretty sure I was 21.
- Cancel that credit card, you idiot.
Just cancel them. Right now. Get on the phone with that credit card company and tell them you are OUTIE. Bye bye. Nice knowing you. Seriously. Credit cards are the devil, and you really do not need any more cute dresses. Well, okay, maybe just the blue one with the lace back. But that is IT. After that, you are cancelling the shit out of them.
- Break up with that controlling dousche bag. You’ll get over it.
Stop dating assholes who do not bring out the best in you. Leslie, you are seriously the WORST at picking boyfriends. Why don’t you just wait about 6 years until you meet a guy named Mark. NO, not THAT Mark, the other Mark. He’s great, and perfect for you, but he is not perfect for the you that you are now, so WAIT 6 years.
- Stop being a people pleaser to people who don’t matter, and start telling those who don’t matter to kindly screw off.
You don’t have to please everyone, and in face – it is impossible. While you do have to be nice to everyone, but you do NOT have to be friends with everyone. Focus on those important people who matter. Stop being a people pleaser, and put all of that “people pleasing” effort into people who deserve your focus. If you have to walk on eggshells around someone, they are probably going to snap out on you at some point, so just cut them loose.
- Spend more time with your mom. And dad too.
They are pretty cool people, and you can learn a lot about life from them. They were once your age, and went through all the time same stuff. Plus, they are always there for you. Spend more time chilling with them. Go for coffee or something.
- Enjoy the time you have at your “crappy retail job.”
You will look back at the time you spent with friends working at Hot Topic and Gallery of Sound, and they will be some of your favorite and most hilarious memories. Even if you had to deal with weird mall rats and Juggalos who walked their girlfriends around on leashes, it will probably become some powerful comic book material down the line. Savor that shit.
- Stand up for yourself, because you’re awesome.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you are a problem, or not worth it, or self destructive, or doing it wrong, or that you should have sex with them, or that you should be doing something better or different, or whatever the fuck they want to say. You are living life the way you want and they can either love it or leave.
- Keep drawing, all the time, every day.
Remember that awesome drawing you did of Lenore? Or the Powerpuff Girls? Or drawing all your friends as comics? You were pretty good at it, and it was a really fun thing for you to do. Find time for it and do it.
- Ex-boyfriends are not bad people, just bad boyfriends, and not right for you.
Yeah, I know, I said some harsh stuff about them before, but seriously, cut the cord and move on. Stop going around smack talking the crap out of them. It didn’t work out, but realize, you were probably half the problem. Move on, gurl.
- Participate in more college-y stuff.
They’re always having weird stuff on campus. Like Renaissance Faires and Carnivals and stuff. So go, even if its just to make fun of how lame it is with your college friends. That works. But be present in it, silly as you think it is.
- Save money.
Put your change in a jar or some shit. Stop spending all your money like it’s burning a damn hole in your pocket, and stock some of that away for a rainy day. Or better yet, use it to pay off that gosh darn stupid credit card.
What do you wish you could have told yourself when you were 21? Leave it in a comment below!